November 22, 2017

Positivity: Pre-Thanksgiving Perspective

Filed under: Positivity — Tom @ 9:01 pm

Note: A slightly different version of this post originally went up in November 2007, and has since turned into a BizzyBlog tradition.


I saw this about halfway through this post at Obi’s Sister. It was written to make a political point, which is fine, but it also makes a universal one (paragraphing added by me):

A neighbor (say her name is Mary) sees her other neighbor (say her name is Nancy) and decides to make her a pie. She bakes a lovely pie the next day and takes it next-door. Nancy is overwhelmed that her neighbor would be so thoughtful and thanks her profusely.

The next week, Mary makes her another pie. When she takes it over, Nancy thanks her again, but with less enthusiasm.

The next week, Mary makes her another pie. When she takes it over, Nancy just says “Thanks.”

The next week, Mary makes her another pie. When she takes it over, Nancy says, “Thanks, and you’re a day late this time.”

The next week, Mary makes her another pie. When she takes it over, Nancy says “Thanks, but next time, can you make a cherry pie instead of apple? I’m getting tired of apple.”

The next week, Mary makes her another pie. When she takes it over, Nancy says “You know, if you put a little less sugar in the crust and didn’t handle it so long, the crust wouldn’t be tough.”

The next week, Mary has lots to do and forgets to make her pie. When she walked by Nancy’s house, she stuck her head out the door and yelled, “Hey! Where’s my pie?”

How quickly gratitude turns into a jaded sense of entitlement.

…. Why don’t we go back to the original idea? Simple people, pioneers really, expressing their pure and heartfelt gratitude …. A humble heartfelt thanksgiving. Not a holiday, but a state of mind.

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.

ABC’s Dowd Wants to Bring Back the Bill Clinton Sexual Misbehavior Exception

In a Wednesday morning tweet, Matthew Dowd of ABC News, the network’s chief political analyst, demonstrated once again that he can be counted on to cling to views diametrically opposed to common sense, as he for all practical purposes resurrected the dishonest defense Democrats used to save Bill Clinton’s presidency in the late-1990s. Dowd’s version, tweeted today in reaction to sex harassment and assault scandals which are predominantly affecting DC Democrats, predominantly liberal establishment media icons, and predominantly liberal Hollywood celebrities, is that “there is a difference between those who are flawed who work for the common good and those who are flawed who could care less about the common good.”


Wednesday Off-Topic (Moderated) Open Thread (112217)

Filed under: Lucid Links — Tom @ 6:00 am

This open thread is meant for commenters to post on items either briefly noted below (if any) or otherwise not covered at this blog. Rules are here.

Positivity: Thanksgiving: Gratitude At Home And At Work May Lead To A Longer, Happier Life

Filed under: Positivity — Tom @ 5:55 am

Via Forbes in 2016, during the runup to Thanksgiving, in what is now officially a BizzyBlog tradition:

November 20, 2016

I love this holiday! It’s inclusive, family-oriented, and a time to get over ourselves and give thanks. “Thanks” should not be a once-a-year practice; it should be something incorporated into your language, actions, and deeds all year long.

Gratitude can be taught and we can live it by example. It’s even healthy for us and may counterbalance the damaging health effects of our overindulgence all year long, especially at Thanksgiving. I’m being facetious, but if we can extend the “thankful” part of our lives beyond “turkey day.” We may be happier, less stressed, and around to see many more turkey days with our loved ones.

Put On A Happy Face

WebMD has reported on the findings from Robert Emmons, University of California Davis Psychology Professor, who said, “Throughout history, philosophers and religious leaders have extolled gratitude as a virtue integral to health and well-being. Now, through a recent movement called positive psychology, mental health professionals are taking a close look at how virtues such as gratitude can benefit our health. And they are reaping positive results… Grateful people take better care of themselves and engage in more protective health behaviors like regular exercise, a healthy diet, [and] regular physical examinations.”

Without beating this assumption to death, lack of “gratitude” can lead to creating stress; anxiety can be evidenced at work by reduced productivity, safety concerns, poor morale, and absenteeism. This is not a new phenomenon. Circadian, in a 2005 study called, “Absenteeism: The Bottom-Line Killer,” reported that as early as the beginning of this Century, absenteeism carries with it high financial impact. “Unscheduled absenteeism is a chronic problem for U.S. employers, conservatively costing $3,600 per hourly employee per year and $2,650 per salaried employee per year.”

Gratitude research is suggesting that feelings of thankfulness have a positive value in helping people cope with daily stressors at home and at work. We know that stress can make us sick, really sick. Stress is linked with heart disease and cancer. Think about it. If you are grateful, you are probably more optimistic and that is a “… characteristic that researchers say boosts the immune system.” A report from The University of Queensland in Australia also supports the findings that, “A positive attitude can improve your immune system and may help you live longer.” …